DEAR ABBY: Whereas I’m excited for brand spanking new alternatives in my life, I can not shake the sensation I’m dropping one thing. I’m all the time dropping one thing, whether or not it’s my telephone, my keys or my pockets. As soon as I misplaced my retainers and needed to pay $300 for brand spanking new ones.
I’ve bother retaining observe of issues. I’m afraid it can create severe issues after I start a profession and lose one thing, which may price me my job. I’m additionally frightened that I’ll inherit necessary objects from my household and lose them. I’m nervous about being answerable for my very own life after I can’t even hold observe of the $5 in my pocket. I urgently want this unhealthy behavior to vary. Is there something that may assist me? — LOSING IT IN GEORGIA
DEAR LOSING IT: Your drawback is probably not as unusual as you worry. Have you ever ever heard the adage, “A spot for every little thing and every little thing as a substitute”? It’s good recommendation. Select one location to put your telephone, your keys and your pockets whenever you come house. When you kind that behavior, you’ll all the time know the place your issues are. (There’s an app, Discover My System, which will assist you to find your digital gadgets you probably have a pc. There are additionally corporations — like Tile — that may assist you to find misplaced objects corresponding to your keys or pockets.)
Some folks with consideration deficit dysfunction lose observe of things as a result of they’re simply distracted and give attention to multiple process directly. If you end up holding your telephone, keys, and so forth., reminding your self to remain within the current could assist. If none of those methods works for you, talk about your fears with a licensed psychotherapist, who will help you identify what’s on the root of your drawback and assist reduce your nervousness in regards to the future.
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DEAR ABBY: I’ve been with my boyfriend/greatest good friend for about six years now. We moved in collectively a bit over a yr in the past and have mentioned marriage. The difficulty is, one in all his sisters has an alcohol drawback. She turns into impolite and tries to bully others when she drinks. When she does that to me, I return the therapy, and he or she turns to her brother and makes an attempt to make him facet together with her.
I understand how necessary household is. As a result of I’m not associated, I’m left feeling susceptible — like she could disrupt my relationship together with her brother. I like him, and I actually attempt together with her. I believe she could be joyful if her brother have been extra accessible to hang around together with her. She’s a tomboy and sometimes frolicked with him previous to us transferring in collectively. Please assist me determine an answer. — COMPETING IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR COMPETING: One choice may be for you and your boyfriend to go away when his sister begins ingesting. Focus on this along with your boyfriend/greatest good friend. For those who haven’t achieved that, please do. His sister could also be making an attempt to divide and conquer, however enlisting him to her facet will probably be rather more troublesome if he merely responds by telling her, “I don’t wish to be concerned on this, Sis. Go away me out of it, and cease choosing on my girlfriend.”
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